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Have You Ever Temporarily Lost Your Confidence? #Makeovers

Which side looks more confident? Even subtle changes can make a world of difference in your outlook!

Which side looks more confident? Even subtle changes can make a world of difference in your outlook!

You know the tell-tale signs of a dip in self-confidence: slow or poor decision making, feeling of dread and the instinct to retreat from any type of challenge. We ALL experience these feelings every now and then. Sometimes it happens for no apparent reason, but often, it is the result of some exterior event such as loss of a job or divorce/break up. These are real problems that need to be worked through internally. However…you can speed the process and give it a boost from the outside… that’s right, I’m talking “MAKEOVER”~!

I know a lot of people think that makeovers, makeup, fashion, etc. are shallow, but have they considered how important it is to “act as if”? This is probably not a new phrase to you, but it is no less magical upon rediscovery! The best advice I can give someone who is sad for no apparent reason is to “act as if” they are happy. This is not the same as “put on a happy face”, which has the connotation of faking for the benefit of others. “Acting as if” is for your own personal benefit to retrain your brain, to form the new neuropathways you need to function in a more balanced way. Your brain needs repetition to learn new ideas and change the chemicals that rule your emotions.

While much of this is indeed done in thought, it can be sparked by changes on the exterior and certainly reinforces the idea that you are happy. To those naysayers who feel that caring about your skin, appearance, looks is a shallow or vain practice, I would say, “Get a haircut!” After your new ‘do, you will notice SOMETHING. It might be a little bounce in your step or just the fact that you look into the mirror more to check it out. Looking into the mirror is an excellent time to do some reinforcing thinking and self-talk that will keep you well on your road to happiness. I am in no way suggesting you should stare at yourself all day in the mirror or that all women must wear makeup or that all men should not – these are all personal choices and should be respected as such. I am merely suggesting that taking pride in your appearance is not a shallow action. It has real and lasting benefits to boost your self-esteem and should be respected as such. You know your brain is playing a tape constantly forming neuropathways, why not help determine where they go!

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How To Handle Your Online Business In The Face of Personal Tragedy

How To Handle Your Online Business In The Face of Personal Tragedy

Despair.

Despair.

These events unfolded in such a ridiculous way, my life is on hold until I can explain them. I looked for a guide to help me during this time and did not find one. This is not a typical blog post for me. Perhaps this can serve for someone in the future.

Despair. Ludicrous events. Unbelievable.

The customer service end of my online business is probably the most challenging. It can sometimes take up to 20 minutes to craft the proper response to a customer inquiry or complaint. It needs to be concise, very brief and to the point. Easier stated than crafted.

The beginning of this sounds like the segue for a joke: we just paid off our car a couple of days before and it wouldn’t start. It would start again if we left it alone for a few hours, sometimes overnight. I was convinced through my Googling that it had something to do with the car’s anti-theft system or electronic keys. As it was, the car couldn’t be trusted and, if it started, needed to be left on wherever it went – less than ideal. Since it was likely a security issue, it would need to be taken to the dealer. The dealer always means big bucks. We milked it until it stopped for good on Christmas Eve 2009.

Everything we were supposed to attend, forget it. We didn’t even have food in the house. The only thing there was to do was tweet. In my tweets, I did not want to bring others down, so barely mentioned my situation. We had to wait until Christmas was over to get the car into the dealer. And on December 26th, the car started to go to the dealer! Well, it saved us money for towing. It turned out to be the starter, something my husband could have fixed, instead it was over $400 at the dealer. While the car was in the dealer and during all of this, shipments were getting delayed and I got word that my father was in the hospital and it was pretty bad. I should find a way there. Shipments were delayed and stress was mounting.

The dealer remarked to my husband that the brakes were going to need work very soon and that we should plan on that or just get them done that day for an additional $1,200. He told them he would do them himself. We figured we had another month to get the parts and tools needed for that job. We were wrong. The brakes were quickly starting to fail and we had to consolidate shipping days.

I didn’t get to the hospital at all. That’s ok. It will be alright. Dad will be fine and I will get up there in a day or two.

By New Year’s Eve, the brakes failed completely. The car could not be driven at all. Both the front and rear brakes as well as the two rear wheel cylinders were out.

And we JUST paid the car off.

It was frigid in Michigan during this time, below zero with wind chills and in single digits without the help of the wind. We had blowing snow and no garage to shield the car or the man working on it who happened to be my husband.

I didn’t get to the hospital at all. No shipments were going out.

This process took days. And the days became longer and longer. There was little I could do to actually help. My husband literally walked a mile to the parts store to make sure he would get the right parts.

You’re probably wondering why someone didn’t drive us, etc. In Michigan, during the winter, people really do not see each other much. If we needed to ask for a favor, it better be a big favor. From what my sister said, that favor was going to need to be a ride 60 miles to the hospital. My husband assured me that I would not need to ask anyone for that favor. Shipments were delayed. I can still feel the stress.

I like to ship same to next day. I wanted to see my dad.

I began to realize that I was very behind and put my eBay and Etsy stores on vacation, putting the reasons in the space provided for notes to customers. I also noted my situation on my Me Page at eBay and tweeted it for good measure. I wasn’t sure anyone would see anything. Orders still came in, God Bless them.

Finally! On January 8th, 2010, we got to the hospital to see my dad, shipping just before going.

My dad was far worse than I imagined. He couldn’t even look at me, speak or anything except an almost imperceptible hand squeeze. I held his hand the whole time I was there. I wasn’t sure we should leave, but my husband had been under a car in horrific weather conditions for days. We needed to rest. The stress had been exhausting, too.

I never thought that would be the last time I would see my father alive.

The next day, January 9th, 2010, my dad let go at 6:30 am. I had been planning to go see him later that day, but he was already gone. Everyone said he held on to see me.

In this blur of emotion, this raw suffering, I still had to think about what to do with my business. I wasn’t sure what to do. I knew this would delay or further delay shipments and that I needed to address the public. I updated my vacation store status on eBay and Etsy, changed my Me Page and finally sent each person a copy and paste note about what was going on. It took a long time to write the note, but the copy and paste was therapeutic in some way. It was something I could manage in between helping with the funeral service and arrangements.

Talking to my friends was especially helpful during this time. Kelly (not on Twitter 😉 reminded me what I would do in a situation like this – I would contact everyone, of course. @PowerSellingMom listened to me and advised me on the morning of the funeral. She calmed me down for 20 minutes, allowing me to go over my checklist of things I needed to do for the business. I am eternally grateful to Danna for that time. She also suggested I do this blog post.

I made sure I emailed or messaged everyone personally. I gave the option in the note to simply request a refund. I think that was pivotal. Of all the orders, only one opted for a refund and I was able to do that swiftly and without any hard feelings. Here is the note:

Hi,
My father passed away yesterday after struggling through the holidays. Your prayers are greatly appreciated. All shipments are delayed. Please request a refund through eBay messaging if you cannot wait. Talk to you soon. Your patience is BEYOND appreciated.

Thank you again for your order.
Anita @ModelSupplies & DNAshopper

So far, no one has left me negative, neutral or nasty comment. My customers are truly the best.

It is my hope this information will be useful to someone during a time when they find it difficult to think. It may sound strange that I would be so worried about my business during such personal tragedy, but there is not much separation between my personal and business life and I love it that way. I am still grappling with the loss of my father and still get delayed a couple days here and there. I cannot predict when it will happen, but knowing my customers care for me like I care for them has kept me going. Grateful cannot begin to describe my feelings for you. Thank you so much for standing by me during this time.
x0x
Anita Nelson @ModelSupplies

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Baltimore, MD Tonight – Funeral for Edgar Allan Poe

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"Quoth the raven, Nevermore."

"Quoth the raven, Nevermore."

Tonight, the city my cousin Edgar called home,  Baltimore, MD, will celebrate his 200th Anniversary of his birthday by holding the funeral he never had. Poe’s family, my relatives, his friends, his cousin, Neilson Poe did not release the information to the public that Edgar had died at age 40 in 1849. For that reason, cousin Edgar had modest attendance of about 10 people at a small memorial before his burial. I know I am only a distant cousin, but I feel somewhat responsible and guilty about that and indeed, have seen the tragic patterns of Poe’s life play out through the generations, including early deaths. My dear Grand Aunt Rosie was the last I knew to keep the family tree that has him listed as:

Poe, Edgar Allan: American author.

…though there are proud, rambling paragraphs written about land owners and soldiers. I asked my mother why they had only this to say of him? She looked embarrassed, turned her eyes down to her hands and said that no one wanted to talk about drinking and drugs and the other… They were ashamed. I could scarcely believe my ears and I was very young, just learning in school of Edgar Allan Poe as an author, though my big brother had already read all of his works and tried writing like him.

I asked my mother if she was ashamed of Edgar.

She said, “no, he was very troubled and his own parents didn’t take care of him.”

Really? What do you mean?

They adopted him to “The Allans”, they couldn’t care for him.

Why?

I’m not sure if they were dead or what happened, nobody is, but I think his father was dead and his mother went to England. They were stage actors.

(I wanted to be a stage actor. Gulp.)

There are lots of reasons, dear.

I did not have time to pursue. In keeping with family tradition, there were too many storms at the forefront to look at the aft. Cousin Edgar was a brilliant author. They could have at least injected an adjective besides American. One look at the Chronology of his life will show it is not an easy job to follow the life of the dearly departed Poe.

Baltimore is instead celebrating his birth with the wonderful gift of a proper funeral! The town is abuzz and it’s funny that Boston was supposed to be the warm home of his heart, when clearly it is Baltimore who loves and appreciates him, deserves him. And has all along. Regretfully and stereotypically of our family, I cannot be in attendance. I did have the decency to write, at least, and thank them for the wonderful events they have held and will hold this evening. I assured them that if cousin Edgar could attend, he will. I think he would like that I have conveyed that message. Hopefully, my brother will be able to attend with him. He was his biggest fan and followed in his footsteps to an early grave.

Please be there if you can – why would you miss this if you live nearby?

Sunday, October 11, 2009

Edgar Allan Poe’s Funeral – BE THERE!

By Anita Nelson, blood relative.

Sources & Resources:

http://www.ksl.com/?nid=156&sid=8196816 <~ About tonight.

http://poebicentennial.com <- Visit for Poe’s Bicentennial~!

http://www.airtran.com <~ Official Airline of the Baltimore Edgar Allan Poe Bicentennial Celebration.

http://www.eapoe.org/geninfo/poechron.htm <~ Chronology of the Life of Edgar Allan Poe
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Deepak Chopra’s One Minute Shift

Now ask me how it feels to be one of 4,192 people @Deepak_Chopra follows on Twitter! FANTASTIC!

It all started with @Ciaobella50 & @Mountainkat. Bella was asking a question seemingly to God, joked MK, a question posed to Deepak Chopra on Twitter. She had barely formed a sentence when he answered her! She was shocked and amazed when she told me and I’m sure she’s blogging about it. I had to write this before reading her blog so I do not have a skewed view. She went on to tell me that he had DMd her! I was star struck! Not only by my beautiful friend, but by her attention from such a man! What an incredible turn of events!

Bella’s Twitter entries were simply hilarious, as usual, poking fun at herself, how she was “just sitting there having a conversation with Deepak Chopra”. He had advised her to be silent for 2 weeks. “2 weeks!” Bella marveled, “I can’t do that!” I suspect she could, but would miss her terribly! I am not sure whether Deepak meant for her to be silent in real life (irl) or online as in Twitter? Bella, not wanting to know, I suspect, did not ask for clarification. She continues to glow brighter than most! The truth is that all of my friends shine brighter than most whether they are on this list or not. Should they seek out Deepak, it would give him the opportunity to discover them. Perhaps some have followed my example and are following the fake Deepak Chopra. I will link only to the real Deepak because of this now.

A few of my friends @Deepak_Chopra follows on Twitter:
@CiaoBella50
@Mountainkat
@Kim
@PowerSellingMom
@LoriMoreno
@OliviaWilder
@ModelSupplies

One Minute Shift is not to be missed! Please watch & RT!

Special thanks to @CiaoBella50 since I was following the fake Deepak Chopra previously! I am eternally grateful to my lovely friend!

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